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Jan 17

I am asked all the time from guys on every site that I am on or guys that come into my cam rooms or on the phone asking me how they can get their girlfriend/wife to have more confidence to dress more sexy. Lately, I have been frequenting AOL chat rooms(I do this from time to time) and naturally I get a lot of attention. But I mean this is always how things have been for me long before I decided to dip my foot into the adult pond. Now that I have better photos and hotter clothes to pose in of course my bbw pornare such tease material that the guys just go crazy, seriously. It’s actually funny what some of them will do and say just to get my attention.

I mean I don’t really know what to tell people. The thing is confidence has to come from within. You can tell your girlfriend and wife that she is sexy but unless she feels it, she won’t believe you. Some women have society’s stigma so etched into their brain that they dare not wear shorts on a hot summer day. Some bbws will never overcome this body shame. A lot of women decide to post nude photos of themselves on public message boards and play on their webcam for free on many of the free chat services to gain attention and confidence. I mean this could be one way to go, however I have found that any woman I have encountered that built her self esteem from having men compliment them on nude photos, constantly seeks out that validation. Their websites become their identity and they have to get their “fix” by posting more nudes and resort to fishing for compliments. A compliment that I have to ask for is not worth having in my book :-). They don’t realize that a lot of men will say anything for free jack off material. They kind of need the outside validation. This may seem hypocritical coming from a woman who has a nude paysite but you see my confidence was already intact when I started. It was my confidence in myself and my body that solidified it for me, I knew could do this. For years I got validation without every having to take my clothes off.

In any event, I guess if I can offer any kind of advice to a woman who may be struggling to find her self esteem I would say the first thing you have to do is buy clothes that flatter your figure instead of hiding it. Nothing is less sexy than looking like a frump. I’m not saying go out and buy a slutty wardrobe, but I do suggest you buy something that is outside your safety net, like a sexy dress that accentuates one part of your body, preferably the one you feel the most good about (cleavage for example). There are many clothing sites around these days catering to big women with extremely figure flattering apparel. I can remember a night where some of the most attention I have ever received was in my favorite tattoo pencil skirt and a figure hugging 3/4 sleeve top. So it’s not about showing skin, it’s about letting them know that you know you are bad ass no matter what you are wearing. Taking pride in your appearance and hygiene is a step in the right direction. When you start having people pay you a compliment or say “wow, you look fabulous in that dress (outfit, skirt etc…) then it will start to click.

What I am today, I evolved into. But I think what really gave me the boost was dropping a lot of weight in the summer between junior and senior years in high school. When I came back from summer recess people were shocked. So that really drastic response is what did it for me. LOL now I’m not saying I have been a fashion plate forever because lord knows I have had my share of disasters lol but that was the pinnacle for me and I never looked back. Back then I was deep into club culture and wearing more hip-hop styles and just having fun with my style. All I wore were gap clothes and baggy jeans. After a while it morphed into tighter jeans, tops, sexy dresses and skirts. Having confidence is not being afraid to take risks and perhaps appearing ridiculous to the rest of the world. You have to take it in baby steps. Don’t try and start at the finish because if you rush into it you won’t have a solid foundation in yourself. That is the most important thing, having enough confidence to let nothing and nobody shake you. So the last bit I can say is that if you trying to get your girlfriend to experiment with her wardrobe, even if it’s just in the privacy of your own home have her check out my plus size clothing blog, It’s A Plus Size World. Even if it’s just to get an idea of something she might find sexy and could see herself wearing.